0

Kat Lambert – My Story (Part 2)

Kat and her boyfriend Todd

16 September 2015

In her second and final blog post of Disability Action Week, Kat Lambert continues to discuss her relationship with her amazing partner, who just so happens to have a physical disability.

After spending the last four months with my amazing boyfriend, I have gained an exposure to the world of disability, the true world of disability, not the one society presents.  I have witnessed the additional planning Todd must complete for the most mundane tasks.  Using the toilet, showering, eating, going shopping, heading to the movies, going out to dinner, all have extra steps included in the planning process.  The things that I would have thought of, such as checking venues for wheelchair access are only minuscule, there is so much more to be considered.

I have witnessed the way so many strangers dismiss him, and despite seeing him trying to pass on the pathway will not even move out of his way.  He remains calm, accepts it, and says a little louder “excuse me”.  I get frustrated by this and tell him he should just run them over, because they saw him, and he clearly doesn’t have the option of just stepping down the step like they do.

At so many functions we have attended people have automatically assumed I am his carer.  I take great pride in correcting them and letting them know that this wonderful human is my boyfriend, and caring for him is my choice, not my career.  If he weren’t in a wheelchair the question would be “is this your partner”, so why does the chair make this different?  Why does the chair make it impossible to fathom that someone loves him and cares for him by choice?

Todd-&-Kat-3

As time goes on I don’t notice the stares anymore.  I will proudly walk the streets with my hand touching his.  I will hug him, even if the public watches on and wonders.  If I sit back and let them keep the absurd mentality that I’m his carer because those with disabilities are incapable of romantic relationships, and that he is beneath them because his body lacks the ability to walk, I would be even more judgemental than I was in the beginning when we met.

Knowing what I know now, and having experienced the absolute pleasure of sharing my life with such an amazing guy (who just happens to have a physical disability), I owe it to Todd, and to those with similar disabilities to educate society, and change those perceptions.  Whilst we will never eliminate disability from society, we can eliminate the stigma.

SHARE THIS!
News you might like:
30 August 2016National not-for-profit organisation Youngcare today announced the appointment of new Chief Executive Officer Anthony Ryan.Mr ...
2 August 2017Youngcare explores options as NSW project endsYoungcare’s partnership with St. Vincent’s Australia to deliver high care housing ...
We want you to be the first to know! Youngcare is thrilled to announce the return of one of Brisbane’s best nights of Australian music: the ...
7 November 2016Share a slice of Youngcake this ChristmasFor a young person with high care needs, the loss of choice and independence is one of ...
24 July 2017A message from our partners at VincentsAt VINCENTS one of our core values is to actively build a company environment that contributes ...
5 May 2016WHAT’S ON! 28 APRIL - 8 MAY Simpson Desert ChallengeSupport the trekkers by donating and follow the trek with our regular ...
The Youngcare Simpson Desert Challenge 2017 has been nominated as one of Northern Territory’s best events by industry experts Selected as ...
5 May 2016A helping hand from Hand Heart PocketYoungcare’s At Home Care Grants are set to continue helping more young Queenslanders with high ...
Dear Mr Scott Morrison,I’m writing to you as the 30th Prime Minister of Australia because I want to know how you’re planning on improving the ...
This article was originally published in The Australian Hospital and Healthcare Bulletin.8 January 2016Young people in aged care – an Australian ...
Categories
Archives

Are you a young person seeking help?

What we do

GET INFO

Get Help

GET INFO

Contact Us

GET INFO

A huge thanks to our supporters 

Merlo
Shine Lawyers
Curwoods Lawyers
ANZ
Good2give
Carbone
Vantage Performance
QIC
Abi and Joseph
One Harvest - love beats
Queensland Government
Pilot
Rivergum Homes
Network First
Taylor Byrne
Tattersalls Club
Bunnamagoo
Select AV
Batercard
Aurora Adventures
Vertica Capital
Knight Frank
Artis Pura
Story Bride Hotel
Birdsville Roadhouse
Queensland Rail
Women's Weekly
Sage
FKG
DAE
Wolff Group
Flight Centre Foundation
Motorola Solutions
Media Merchants
LAS logo
Morgans
MMO Interiors
50-50 charity raffle
Neals
Betta Home Living
Hand Heart Pocket
De Luca Corp
Tatts Group
Shape
Kabuki
EY
Audio Visual Elements
Audi Centre Springwood
Triffid
Brazilian Beauty - Albany Creek
Spot Productinons
GNK
Vuly
Vincents
CUB
Nova
Braggs Signs
Cutting Edge
Care Tech
Hopgood Ganim
Eureka Landscaping
Duco Events
HSF
ALS
Style
KFC Youth Foundation
Thrifty
MTAQ
Channel Nine
Collins Food
Birdsville Hotel
Savills
Coates
MS Queensland
Clark Real Estate
CV Services
Just Photography
Birdsville Social Club
Bruce Lynton
Forte Catering
MGD Private
Just Cause Bunch
Keystone
Servcorp